Being solid in who you are and staying true to yourself can be difficult. In a world where there are social expectations and standards, how do we stand our ground and stay confident in who we are?
There are a few things you can do to stay true to yourself. Especially as a teenager, this can be a hard thing to do, because we’re still growing and figuring out the whole of ourselves. I still believe that even though we haven’t fully discovered all of who we are, there is still the core of your personality and what kind of person you are so far.
I like to think I have a pretty good grasp of who I am for the most part. I know my beliefs, morals, and what kind of person I want to be in this world. It wasn’t easy to get to this point, it never is, but there are definitely steps I took to achieve this. A lot of it comes from experience, especially going through shitty points in your life and suffering through them. I think that is what has made me grow the most as a person. I truly believe pain and suffering builds the most character in someone and creates the most beautiful minds in this world. It’s depressing, but I am never drawn to people who have had an easy go of things. Not saying everyone doesn’t go through hard shit, but some do more than others. And those people who have been broken and put themselves back together are always the ones I love the most. It may be because I can relate, but it’s also about the insight that these people have on life.
So, what can you do to find yourself and stay true to it? Take a seat. Think long and hard about what kind of world you want to live in, the people you want to be surrounded by, and what kind of energy you want to put out. What are your morals? What are your beliefs?
Being solid in what you believe might be the most important thing. You will be surrounded by people who want to change you, especially as a teen, because many teenagers have this preconceived idea of what’s cool and how you’re supposed to act and dress. This is total bullshit. Do not, ever, let these types of people change you, because these are the ones that have no idea what they want or what they’re doing. They’re just caught up in the hype. Of course everyone wants to fit it. But if you are confident in yourself and are true to you, you’ll fit in in the right places, because those people will love who you are and won’t want to change you.
The one thing I cling to to stay true to myself is, “be what you want to see in the world”. Of course, I’m not perfect, very far from it, and sometimes I do things I don’t agree with and experience regret. But we’re only human, and the best we can do is try to have good intentions. I think if you stick to your good intentions, and do your best to follow through with them, you’ll be on the right track. You must also remember that there is no one else like you. You are unique and an individual, and that means you can offer some things that others can’t, because your personality and who you are is unique to you.
Do not let anyone or anything change you. Never lose sight of your goals, dreams, and passions. Being an individual is one of the most beautiful things in this life, and its important to hold on to that.