Should You Leave Your Relationship?

Every relationship is different, but there are certain things no one should have to deal with in a relationship. If you feel you are in significant danger, please seek help (see below for some resources).  

  1. Cheating. Unless it is an open relationship where all parties are aware of the situation, going behind someone’s back to cheat is hurtful and will only result in you losing your partner’s trust.
  2. Physical abuse. Abuse of any kind can leave significant mental scarring. Not only will you most likely never trust your partner again, you will have been hurt physically, which is not what you should be dealing with in a relationship. Also, if your partner gets in the habit of hurting you physically, someday it may escalate and you may end up being very injured.
  3. Jealousy. It can make your partner feel as if they’re not good enough. Like if they are doing everything they can to make you happy, but you’re jealous of their friends for no reason. You being jealous can lead to distrust, and it does quite frequently.
  4. Emotional Abuse. It is a form of abuse, characterized by a person subjecting, or exposing, another person to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. An example of this is a person telling you that they will kill themselves if you leave them.
  5. Sexual Abuse. In short terms, it is unwanted sexual activity, usually forced upon an individual by one or multiple people. Sexual abuse leaves severe mental and sometimes physical scarring. Some people spend their whole lives trying to cope with being sexually abused at a point in their life.
  6. Dishonesty. Trust is one of the most important things in the relationship. When you lie to your partner, that can end up compromising other aspects of your relationship.
  7. Verbal Abuse. To name a few effects of verbal abuse, it can result in PTSD, sleep and eating disorders, anger problems, anxiety/ depression, substance abuse, self harm as well as suicide or suicide ideation. Using your words to degrade or tear down the person you’re in a relationship with counts as verbal abuse. Also, ignoring them and not talking to them can count as verbal abuse as well.
  8. They try to control you. From personal experience, I can tell you that having a controlling person as your partner can seriously damage you. When someone you love tries to control your every move, it feels like you’re unable to live your life as you want, like your independence has been taken away. You can sustain serious psychological damage from being in a controlling relation for long periods of time. 


I hope this article has given you some information that will help you understand when to leave a relationship. Also, below there are some hotlines below if you need help.

NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: 1−800−799−7233

NATIONAL SEXUAL ASSAULT HOTLINE:  1-800-656-4673 (24/7 hotline)

NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION HOTLINE:  1-800-273-TALK (8255)