Overcoming Fears

You can find fears and trauma in every person that inhabits the world around you. Fill a room with 20 random people off the street, and I guarantee you every person will have something that haunts them at night. Fears are just something we develop as we grow and experience our everyday lives.

But how can we overcome these things? Many would say they would like to live without fear, so is there a way to work towards that? Is there a way to get completely rid of them, or at least diminish them?

The answer is yes. It takes time, but I do believe that most people can find a way to dissolve their fears or create a way to sit with them to where they do not affect the person in their everyday lives. Coping with trauma and fear is a journey and something you definitely build and become better at over time. I interviewed three different people and asked them how they cope with their trauma and what they suggest to find a better balance.

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Interview #1: Lillian

“Fears are just something that hold you back. The way I get over something I’m afraid of is giving myself a goal. Decide that you are going to get past this and find things that are positive around you, and then the fears or bad areas of your life won’t affect you so much. Focusing on things that make you happy and give you joy and dedicating solid time to that can be therapeutic and help you get your mind off everything else.

I do think you need to process your trauma and sit down with it, really think about what it is that scares you. You just need to work through it and face it head on.”

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Interview #2: Alex

“So, one thing that really helps me is focusing on a goal of mine or something I like doing. It’s kind of healing in a way if I focus on something that makes me happy or I know is good for me, or will be good in the long run by completing a goal of mine.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            I think it’s a process, and that it starts with controlling it. It really depends on what trauma you have too, because fear comes in all shapes and sizes. Some trauma you can just control and eventually it will go away, and others all you can do is control it and learn to live with it, and that’s ok too.”

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I believe fears can come up in any aspect of your life, whether that be something you want to pursue, self-doubt, your relationships, etc. Everyone has them, and the hardest thing is finding healthy ways to work through them.

You cannot live in fear. Coming from someone who personally deals with this issue everyday, I can say it is not a healthy way to live, and you will not be living your life to the fullest if it isn’t solved somehow. The best thing you could do when dealing with fears is finding confidence in yourself. Find confidence in the fact that you will be okay, and you may have to face these fears, but you will crush them and push yourself further as a person. Nothing can be achieved while living in fear.

So, sit down and take a good look at what you’re afraid of. Confront it, acknowledge it, do whatever you need to do, but it will have to be recognized if you want to work past it. It’s going to be a process, it will take time and commitment. But you just have to remember in the end, it will pay off and make you stronger as a person.

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